Category Archives: Life

Beyond limit

Last week I got to know that Megha is taking pills for depression for the last 6-8 months. This was shocking for me I couldn’t believe it, I thought this is just another joke about to come from her mouth. She is so a fun-loving person, you can not be sad or you can not seat silently in her presence. She will make you express yourself. She will give you that comfort to open up. She is amazing. How such a person can be depressed?

So many questions are running through my mind. What happened? How this can happen? No, she does not have any psychological illness.

I wanted to know. We met again and insisted to tell me what happened.

Nayan, The person she is in a relationship with. He loves Megha a lot. No one doubts it. Nayan is so possessive about Megha. When Nayan is not in the city, he always wants to be in touch with Megha through text messages or calls. He cares for her. Keep asking what are doing? where are you going?

To love someone deeply is good, to care for someone to the fullest is great, and to be possessive of someone you love is normal. But you have to understand that you have to give some space to everyone you love. You should not embrace anyone so tightly that he or she can’t breathe.

to be continued….

Men’s world

First of all, I tell you I truly believe in gender equality even though men and women both are different,  physically and emotionally.

Men and women should be respected equally. but the sad thing is around the world men have established supremacy compared to women.

I do not doubt that women are equally capable to do every work that men can do. In the field of Sports, Science, Politics or any work that needs physical and mental strength, women have proved themself.

Our society has one equal mindset around the world. In the very important decision of selecting a partner, women have very limited options from the list of men who have chosen her. In most of the cases where men choose women and women have the right to say yes or no. that’s good. Women like to be chosen she loves to be appreciated.

Wow, women’s decision is final.

Do you think this is equality?

Why women can not make a decision and choose a person she loves?
A woman who chooses a man she loves and proposes to him, people will question her character. This is where inequality can be seen.

Women are still not free to choose or propose to their dream man even if she is found one. In the fear of people will question her character if she will take initiative. forget the society the man who she loves might question her dignity.

This is not a south Indian movie. This is reality. She can not propose, Maximum she smiles when she wants to flirt or she wants to give hint. And wait for her luck.

Men’s World.

Acceptance of rejection

Yes no matter how good you are. but at one point you might be rejected. It is to be understood that you are not always good enough for everyone. and you are not even a good option for a particular person or a job post or a group of people, those are a good option for you. Yes, rejection is painful, and the level of pain depends on how much effort you took to be chosen. At some point we need to find the line where we stop trying for it, yes it is not easy to decide where to stop and when to let it go.

Face the rejection to the fullest, accept it in a healthy way. Don’t let the rejection hold you like this, this can wreak havoc on all your life.

See there are thousands of ways to deal with it and can come out of it stronger. one rejection if not the end of all. sometimes the rejection opens thousands of other doors. And you will realise at one point that you were busy looking for the key to the doors which were already open.

ok let’s talk about a few points to come out of the experience

Number one, why does rejection hurts a lot?

it is in human nature to be in a group to survive. when someone rejects us, we feel pain is very obvious, rejection is against everything we feel like we need for survival. Rejection is depend on how are we attached to those whom we wanted to be chosen. Or what we have to offer them. We need to choose people of similar attachment styles in which they view themselves as being lovable and worthy.

Number two, don’t reject yourself

At some point in time, we don’t think about taking care of ourselves because we are in pain of rejection. Anger and hurt will be your immediate reaction after rejection. In these moments best thing you can do is self-care, activities like exercise, long run and sports are great ways to get your normal life. So you can think more clearly about the situation instead of getting into the abyss of overthinking.

Number three, give time a little time

Take some time. Do things you love. Calm your senses and pay attention to what you are feeling,

Number four, Work on improving your other skills

Write down positive things about yourself. Think about some of your strengths and values.

Number five spend time with people who loves you.

When you face rejection, remember one thing there are plenty of things and a lot of people are waiting for you. Spend time with people who make you laugh and feel loved. if you are not able to meet the people who love you just think about them or talk to them

Number six: Don’t be harsh for yourself.

There is nothing wrong with you. We all including successful people get rejected at some point. it is ok, we should not punish ourselves. looking at the situation more objectively and asking yourself if there’s anything you can learn from the experience — and doing so with compassion towards yourself.

Number seven: being healthy is fun

How do you respond to the rejection? maybe you did not sleep or eat enough or irregular. It would be harder to come over of it. So it is better to choose a healthy life. Eating well, sleeping on time, staying hydrated and doing exercise regularly. This will make you strong both way mentally and physically.