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Beyond limit

Last week I got to know that Megha is taking pills for depression for the last 6-8 months. This was shocking for me I couldn’t believe it, I thought this is just another joke about to come from her mouth. She is so a fun-loving person, you can not be sad or you can not seat silently in her presence. She will make you express yourself. She will give you that comfort to open up. She is amazing. How such a person can be depressed?

So many questions are running through my mind. What happened? How this can happen? No, she does not have any psychological illness.

I wanted to know. We met again and insisted to tell me what happened.

Nayan, The person she is in a relationship with. He loves Megha a lot. No one doubts it. Nayan is so possessive about Megha. When Nayan is not in the city, he always wants to be in touch with Megha through text messages or calls. He cares for her. Keep asking what are doing? where are you going?

To love someone deeply is good, to care for someone to the fullest is great, and to be possessive of someone you love is normal. But you have to understand that you have to give some space to everyone you love. You should not embrace anyone so tightly that he or she can’t breathe.

to be continued….

Men’s world

First of all, I tell you I truly believe in gender equality even though men and women both are different,  physically and emotionally.

Men and women should be respected equally. but the sad thing is around the world men have established supremacy compared to women.

I do not doubt that women are equally capable to do every work that men can do. In the field of Sports, Science, Politics or any work that needs physical and mental strength, women have proved themself.

Our society has one equal mindset around the world. In the very important decision of selecting a partner, women have very limited options from the list of men who have chosen her. In most of the cases where men choose women and women have the right to say yes or no. that’s good. Women like to be chosen she loves to be appreciated.

Wow, women’s decision is final.

Do you think this is equality?

Why women can not make a decision and choose a person she loves?
A woman who chooses a man she loves and proposes to him, people will question her character. This is where inequality can be seen.

Women are still not free to choose or propose to their dream man even if she is found one. In the fear of people will question her character if she will take initiative. forget the society the man who she loves might question her dignity.

This is not a south Indian movie. This is reality. She can not propose, Maximum she smiles when she wants to flirt or she wants to give hint. And wait for her luck.

Men’s World.

Acceptance of rejection

Yes no matter how good you are. but at one point you might be rejected. It is to be understood that you are not always good enough for everyone. and you are not even a good option for a particular person or a job post or a group of people, those are a good option for you. Yes, rejection is painful, and the level of pain depends on how much effort you took to be chosen. At some point we need to find the line where we stop trying for it, yes it is not easy to decide where to stop and when to let it go.

Face the rejection to the fullest, accept it in a healthy way. Don’t let the rejection hold you like this, this can wreak havoc on all your life.

See there are thousands of ways to deal with it and can come out of it stronger. one rejection if not the end of all. sometimes the rejection opens thousands of other doors. And you will realise at one point that you were busy looking for the key to the doors which were already open.

ok let’s talk about a few points to come out of the experience

Number one, why does rejection hurts a lot?

it is in human nature to be in a group to survive. when someone rejects us, we feel pain is very obvious, rejection is against everything we feel like we need for survival. Rejection is depend on how are we attached to those whom we wanted to be chosen. Or what we have to offer them. We need to choose people of similar attachment styles in which they view themselves as being lovable and worthy.

Number two, don’t reject yourself

At some point in time, we don’t think about taking care of ourselves because we are in pain of rejection. Anger and hurt will be your immediate reaction after rejection. In these moments best thing you can do is self-care, activities like exercise, long run and sports are great ways to get your normal life. So you can think more clearly about the situation instead of getting into the abyss of overthinking.

Number three, give time a little time

Take some time. Do things you love. Calm your senses and pay attention to what you are feeling,

Number four, Work on improving your other skills

Write down positive things about yourself. Think about some of your strengths and values.

Number five spend time with people who loves you.

When you face rejection, remember one thing there are plenty of things and a lot of people are waiting for you. Spend time with people who make you laugh and feel loved. if you are not able to meet the people who love you just think about them or talk to them

Number six: Don’t be harsh for yourself.

There is nothing wrong with you. We all including successful people get rejected at some point. it is ok, we should not punish ourselves. looking at the situation more objectively and asking yourself if there’s anything you can learn from the experience — and doing so with compassion towards yourself.

Number seven: being healthy is fun

How do you respond to the rejection? maybe you did not sleep or eat enough or irregular. It would be harder to come over of it. So it is better to choose a healthy life. Eating well, sleeping on time, staying hydrated and doing exercise regularly. This will make you strong both way mentally and physically.

Install Love

Technical Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge, and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but will no long disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and select Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error- Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. In nontechnical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others. Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive Self, Realize Your Worth, and Acknowledge Your Limitations.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over my Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Yes, that means Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. This Love program is freeware. You’re welcome to share it with others. Please pass it along!

Grateful for the person who prepared this message firsthand and also to the one who shared it.

Advice from a wise man !

1. Have a firm handshake.
2. Look people in the eye.
3. Sing in the shower.
4. Own a great stereo system. Music is life.
5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
6. Don’t expect life to be fair.
7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
9. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
10. Whistle.
11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
12. Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery ABSOLUTELY!.
13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that he has.
16. When playing games with children, let them win.
17. Give people a second chance, but NOT a third.
18. Be romantic.
19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
21. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for our convenience, not the caller’s.
22. Be a good loser.
23. Be a good winner.
24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
25. When someone hugs you, let him be the first to let go.
26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
27. Keep it simple at every time.
28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
29. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, NO REGRETS.
31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
32. Never waste an opportunity to tell people you love them.
33. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped and loved you.
34. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
36. Begin each day with some of your favorite prayer
37. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
38. Send a lot of greeting cards. Sign them, ‘Someone who thinks you’re terrific.’
39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
43. Make someone’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
44. Become someone’s hero.
45. Marry only for love, it is key to your happiness if every other thing fails.
46. Count your blessings.
47. Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
48. Wave at the children on a school bus/house/street/
49. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with PEOPLE. That is emotional intelligence.
50. Share this to help your friends.
51. Make sure someone says THANK-YOU to you every day….

Seven Stages of Love

1. Dilkashi: (attraction) When we see a person, and found him/her beautiful, We want to see them again and again.

2. Uns: (infatuation) When we start meeting a person we found beautiful and you keep remembering their speech, thoughts or style. when you eager to know more about him/her.

3. Ishq: (love) When you like someone the most, When you Love someone

4. Akidat: (trust/reverence) Ok, let me tell you one secret, If you love someone doesn’t mean you trust them, Trust is a big thing.

5. Ibadat: (worship) Just imagine How much do you love them if you start worshiping him/her. But I tell you, If you love any living person that much, He or she will loose interest in you

6. Junoon: (passion/madness) We don’t give any space to mad person in our society.

7. Maut: (death) Suicide is a crime, If you fail to do either you will be jailed or you will be physically disabled